Changing Goals

You may notice that I have been somewhat absent from this space in recent weeks and I’m here to come clean.

First, there’ve been a lot of things happening in my personal life that have taken up a lot of time and energy. Maintaining this space has definitely fallen by the wayside.

That being said, that doesn’t mean that writing hasn’t been part of my regular life. In fact, there has definitely been an uptick in writing which is why I would like to invite you to the spaces where you can find my work on a regular basis.

I continue to write for The Relationship Blogger where I cover a variety of topics but mostly focus on being a good partner and unpacking challenges that arise when you are parents of young children.

I’ve also been writing daily, okay week-daily, on SteemIt. I find writing there to be extremely gratifying because of the community, but also because I find it is worth the time from a financial perspective. I am planning a surprise that I am very excited to give and my time on SteemIt is allowing me to even consider this surprise. I am sorry to say, dear reader (except for Nateanite who will surely read this after I hit “publish”), that this surprise will remain nameless for several months.

In the coming months, I have some projects coming down the pipeline that I’m excited to share with you! One thing I can talk about now is that I am considering starting a YouTube channel. I recently had to give a group presentation to fulfill a degree requirement and it didn’t go really how I wanted (my group member started spouting off some 100% untrue things about John D. Rockefeller) and giving it again on my own terms seems like a fabulous way to reclaim my power in the presentation that I ended up putting together completely on my own.

 

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So, what do you say? Want to visit me someplace new?

 

The Time I Won At Parenting

Is there anything worse than being three years old and having your mom make you get out of the bath? In my toddlers world, the answer to that question is an emphatic NO.

This day was no different. I was trying everything I could think of to keep the insanity to a minimum. “It’s no fun to be cold, is it?” I said, drying her off and praising her for doing a good job. She really was doing an excellent job. But I could tell being cold and wet was getting to her and a meltdown was imminent.

“Robe, please,” she shivered.

“Let’s get your underpants and pajamas on first, my girl.”

Then suddenly, out of nowhere she inhaled “heee” and exhaled a guttural “ahhhh”. I realized this was the moment we’d been working towards for months. Deep breaths in and deep breaths out to calm down in a difficult situation. What else could I do? I followed her lead. There we were, sitting on the floor of the bathroom breathing in and out like a couple of asthmatic hyenas.

“Is everything okay up there!?” My husband shouted from the living room.

“Yes, heeee, everything is fine, ahhhh!” I shouted back.

That day, we made it through putting on pajamas, her Wonder Woman bathrobe, and brushing her hair while engaged in our unusual deep breathing exercise. My daughter may have been the one wearing the Wonder Woman robe, but I was the one that felt like Wonder Woman after bath time.

 

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The Toes

While I’m no artist, I do love a good pun. Have a wonderful Friday!

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We’re Only Human

I think we can all accept that people make mistakes. Some of them are worse than others, there’s no doubt about that, but mistakes often result in shrugged shoulders and a comment “Hey, we’re only human.”

So then, I wonder, why do we not extend the same courtesy to units of people? This could be a married couple struggling to parent, an organization that didn’t make exactly the right statement, or friends who didn’t offer the words of comfort you were looking for. Certainly, credit should be given for trying, right?

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I’m not saying we need to throw a parade because a white supremacist says “hey, maybe people of color have value.” That would be stupid, because they should have come to that conclusion well before lighting their tiki torch and going on a rampage. A simple “I’m glad you’re trying to be better” will suffice. And then a lengthy conversation about why they felt an entire group of people didn’t have value before.

When a church realized that it’s statement that “people of any faith, or of no faith at all, should be troubled by the increase of intolerance in both words and actions we see everywhere,” was being touted by white supremacists within their midst as a statement supportive of their bigoted views (how? But whatever, I guess) and they update their statement to say “White supremacist attitudes are morally wrong and sinful, and we condemn them. Church members who promote or pursue a “white culture” or white supremacy agenda are not in harmony with the teachings of the Church.” That’s the type of statement that should have you thinking “this organization has struggled with race relations in the past. Good for them for trying to move past it, they might be worth some consideration.”

Ultimately, I think that a lot of the horror we have been seeing is due to a serious lack of respect for one another. While not every attitude deserves respect, the person holding the bigoted attitude would benefit from respectful education about why their attitude presents a problem.

 

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Do you always have to be the one to engage? No way, you need to engage in self-care and (at least for me) that often means not engaging other people. You say what you can and then you step away.

People make mistakes, that’s just part of the gig. Organizations are made up of people and even though we are better together most of the time there are also times when we fall short.

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*Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash

*Photo by Thought Catalog on Unsplash

*Photo by Pablo Orcaray on Unsplash

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