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I am Anne, I am Marilla

Anne gives herself freely to each emotion as it passes through her psyche. Surrendering completely, into the depths of despair or the heights of ecstasy.

Marilla is afraid to feel. A life of hard experiences has taught her not to expect too much, lest she be disappointed.  Her moments of passion have led to some of her biggest regrets.


Sometimes I am Anne and sometimes I am Marilla. Often I am nervous to give in completely. In some ways this is good. As an adult I need to function on a day-to-day basis and one can’t do that very well in the depths of despair. In other ways it is terrible. I struggle to give in to the sweet moments that come, moments saturated with love and safety.

When I get excited about something, echoes of “next time dad gets paid” ring through my head and I remember all the “next times” that never came. The clothes that didn’t fit, the activities I didn’t even ask to participate in. Other times I remember being on the giving end of a Secret Santa and I struggle to express how excited I get to be able to do the same for another struggling family.


The blessings of being a mother to daughters that feel deeply are not lost on me. They show me every day that you can give in to those feelings and still be worthy of love. I know this because they have my love. Every day I find it easier and easier to give in to my highs and lows, to feel them fully. During these times, I am Anne. Feeling the delights of extreme happiness and the depth of sorrow or grief.

Where do you find yourself? Are you mostly Anne, mostly Marilla, or somewhere in between?



Shorter Days

Autumn is officially upon us! The leaves are turning brilliant colors, the nursery that is my view has fields full of mums, the presidential election is in full swing, and the days are getting shorter.

I’m not sure which of these last two I have more difficulty with. Election season is negative, messy, and sometimes just downright depressing. In 2008 there was so much hope, why can’t this go around be more like that? Why can’t citizens be excited about the prospect of moving their country forward? Unfortunately, it’s business as usual and that is downright depressing.

And shorter days . . . Even those of you who do not have a history of depression feel the effects of less sunlight upon how you feel. For me, suffering from SAD seems to begin earlier and earlier each year. Why this is, I have no idea. Usually I can deal effectively with my depression by eating healthfully and exercising. Working on projects can be helpful if I can bring myself to actually do it. Poor Paisley is still waiting for school to start, comics are unwritten, and the load of laundry in the dryer is waiting to be put away.

The darker seasons are always harder for me. How do you cope with the difficulties associated with less sunlight and the barrage of negative political campaign ads?